We’ve all heard the phrase “Think positive,” or some version of it. Not only are we told that it’ll simply make us feel better and have a better outlook on life but, in some cases, we’re told that if we think in positive ways, we can actually bring about positive changes in our lives.
Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work
The reason positive thinking can be more of a hindrance than a help is actually relatively simple: It hampers old-fashioned, real-world action.
“‘The Law of Attraction’ is the best-selling goal-setting book because it makes people feel like success and well-being is just a step away,” positive psychologist and author Caroline Adams Miller tells StyleCaster. “With affirmations, if you tell yourself, ‘I’m a winner, I’m the best, I did a great job,’ but you have a fundamental disbelief in that statement, you can actually do more harm than good. You will only fuel a negative belief in yourself, because inevitably you’re probably not going to come up with the success you want.”
In fact (and somewhat ironically), you may have to experience some negative thinking in order to bring about the results you desire. “If you want to be happier and more positive, it’s going to involve saying ‘no’ to yourself on a fairly regular basis,” Miller said.
Thinking positive thoughts without an action plan to achieve what you want is like rocking in a rocking chair. It is something to do, but you do not get anywhere!
Great post, Caroline. Thanks.